The Spark Of Romance

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This month I am sharing some wisdom we can sow into others’ relationships from the lessons we have learned during our 52 years of marriage. I have already shared how intimate communication is essential to a meaningful marriage.

1. Always keep the lines of communication open and meaningful.

Now today I want to stress the importance of:-

2. Keep the spark of romance alive. 

It has been said, and rightly so, that “the couple who prays together stays together”, but may I also add to that “the couple who dances together stays together” I think it may be the fact that you are doing something together where you are actually holding each other, so perhaps it is the romance and the touching. A great Valentine movie to get you motivated is “Shall We Dance”.
Just do SOMETHING romantic together!
John Eldredge explains it better in his book “Love and War” Page 176
John writes “ I was eavesdropping on a conversation between two couples, both empty nesters about what it’s like when the kids are gone:
One of the couples said ‘It’s wonderful! We have more time for Bible Study.’ Bible Study? ! Are you crazy?
The other couple said. ‘We get to walk around the house naked and make love whenever we want!’ One of these couples is far closer to Eden than the other, and it ain’t the one with the concordance on the nightstand!”


One of the most romantic things John and I ever did together was flying to Paris for dinner after John’s retirement. Now you don’t have to be so extravagant to be romantic.
During the summer we will often just have a romantic dance around our patio.
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The Heart Of Friendship

A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

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Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. 2 Corinthians 1:3

Out Of The Abundance Of The Heart

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During the month of February I want to address some issues that can make or break the covenant of marriage because I believe this union is close to the heart of God and a witness to the world of the mysterious union of Christ and His church according to Ephesians 5:31-32

What has kept us together for over 50 years? What wisdom can we sow from the lessons of our lives into others’ relationships?

It has been said that you can measure the mutual affection of two human beings by the number of words they exchange. After over 50 years of marriage I’ve learned that open deep communication is an essential part of intimacy. Not just surface words to break the silence but meaningful words that come from the unashamed naked depth of your innermost being. That is the only way we see into our spouse’s heart for as Luke 6:45 tells us “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”

Choose Wisely Today

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Did you know that the average person will make approximately 35,000 decisions, some minor and some major choices everyday? Decision-making is such a seamless brain process that we’re usually unaware of it — until our choice results in unexpected consequences.

Where you are today is a result of your choices yesterday

Choose wisely today for a better tomorrow.

Deuteronomy 30:19 I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing:therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live: That thou mayest love the Lord thy God, and that thou mayest obey his voice, and that thou mayest cleave unto him:for he is thy life, and the length of thy days

The Scarlet Thread

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This Scarlet Thread runs through the Bible from Genesis to Revelation with one unique message. Hebrews 9:22 And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission.

 If we drain the blood from the Word we are only left with psychology.

Psychologists may be able to help you deal with your past but cannot help you with that black mark of guilt on your conscience. There is only One who has the power to cleanse the slate, the One who shed His blood and has promised “I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins” (Isaiah 43: 25). 

Page 67 “Developing A Secret History With God” Available from Barnes & Noble and Amazon or a bookstore near you.

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